WHAT MEN REALLY WANT

 

 

 

Men Surveyed on the turn them on in bed

Did you know that 41% of men prefer A-cup breasts over D-cups?

And that 53% of guys wish they had a bigger penis?

We polled 400 men to get the truth about what they want between the sheets

1) In bed, I would rather please...

my partner: 78%

"I've been with a lot of women, and being pleased isn't the point. It's more fulfilling to see your partner enjoy herself. Besides, I get so turned on by just watching a woman let go in bed."
Kyle, 26, waiter

myself: 22%

"When it comes to sex, I'm a taker. When was in college, I dated this woman for about a year. She was really into pleasing me--manually, orally, and however else. I bet that's why we lasted as long as we did."
Russell, 25, personal trainer

2) I want a bigger penis.

 

trues 53%

"I think the length is all right. But like most men I wouldn't mind more girth--and I sometimes worry my lack of size doesn't do the job in bed. An extra two inches would do the trick."
Craig 32 therapist

false 47%

"As my rabbl used to say it's not the size of the dreidel but how you soin it. I am well equipped and can satisfy a woman--though I did once steep with someone who complained about my size."
Ian 27, editor

3) I prefer a woman with...

D-cup breasts: 59%

"Since puberty, I've fantasized about being with women who can really fill out a T-shirt. So most women I've gone out with have had ample chests. To me, bigger is just sexier."
--Cary 28, student

A-cup breasts: 41%

"Women don't have to be stacked to get my attention. Most thin women are small on top-- that's the body type I like, It's sexy when a girl can throw on a tank top without needing a bra."
--John, 41, contractor

4) I'd be disappointed if my girlfriend's breasts were implants.

False: 55%

If they make a woman feel better about her body and give her confidence that's fine with me. Besides if they took and feel great why should I be disappointed."
-- Patrick 25, factory worker

true: 45%

"I'm not interested in anything on a woman's body that's been surgically enhanced. My girlfriend isn't huge on top, but she's nicely proportioned-and 100-percent real. And I wouldn't want her any other way."
--Matt, 29, banker

5) I 'd like a woman to ask me out.

true: 95%

"It's sexy when a woman goes after what she wants. In fact, my current girlfriend asked me out first and her confidence was such a big turn-on, I'm still with her two years later."
--Joel, 27, medical researcher

false: 5%

"I question a woman's motives when she asks me out. One woman who made the first move on me turned out to be married and looking for a way to get back at her husband."
--Steve, 33, graphic designer

6) I call myself...

a breast man: 48%

"Breasts are what I notice first, because they look so warm and inviting, in fact, sometimes, I just can't help but stare; they're what make women women."
--Mark, 26, actor

a butt man: 29%

"I wish every woman had a butt like my wife's. There's nothing better than a woman strutting her stuff."
--Frank, 37, club owner

a leg man: 23%

I'm totally turned on by women in short skirts. In fact, baggy sweatpants should be completely banned."
--Al, 24, financial manager

7) I like my partner to dress up as...

a schoolgirl: 47%

"The other day, I saw a woman in an outfit that looked like a Catholic-schoolgirl uniform, and I couldn't help but fantasize about that little plaid skirt--and what was underneath."
--Liam, 27, musician

a nurse: 35%

"After minor surgery last year, I developed fantasies about my gorgeous nurse. After all, what would be better than being spoon-fed Jell-O after a long sponge bath?"
--Daniel, 32, publicist

a prostitute: 18%

"I'm a fan of the pimp/prostitute fantasy, because you don't have to be shy about doing dirty or taboo things; you re supposed to be doing dirty and taboo things."
--Matt, 24, social worker

8) I prefer to date a woman with...

a great face: 61%

"When I'm playing onstage, I look out at the crowd and make eye contact with the audience, especially the women, to connect with them. So a stunning face--and spellbinding eyes in particular--are important to me."
--Jim, 38, musician

a great body: 39%

"A nice face is fine for day. But come night, I want a killer body. Recently, I went home with a woman whose face was OK. But when I undressed her and saw her incredible curves, I was a happy man."
--Harry 40, lawyer

9 I say "I love you" just to get sex.

false: 83%

"I won't sleep with a woman don't love-- even if that means I won't sleep with a ton of women in my life. American men tell women almost anything to get them into bed. But I'm from Trinidad, where a man would rather get to know a woman before having sex."
Nico, 47, security consultant

true: 17%

"I always tell a woman I want to sleep with that love her. Recently, I met a woman at a bar, and we had a one-night stand. Before we had sex, I said I loved her-but I wasn't lying. While we were in bed together, I did love her."
Jim, 39, driver

10 I'd want to know if my girlfriend was cheating on me.

true: 89%

A few months after I broke up with my girlfriend of four years, a mutual acquaintance told me she'd been cheating on me. It was devastating that she did that--but even more humiliating that she got away with it.
Roldan, 30, scuba instructor

false: 11%

"If my girlfriend met a guy one night she just couldn't resist and slept with him we'd both be happier if never found out I just hope she'd afford me the same luxury.
Kevin 27, corporate planner.

11) I want a woman to...

tell me if she didn't have an orgasm: 88%

"I wonder if my ex-girlfriend really enjoyed sleeping with me, because I'm not convinced she ever climaxed. If she'd been more open, I could have worked on my technique, and sex might have been more pleasurable for both of us."
Danis, 27, graphic designer

fake an orgasm if she didn't have one: 12%

"There have been times when I could tell a girlfriend--or two--was faking it. But I appreciate that they were trying to protect my feelings. I'd prefer that a woman fake it and give me helpful hints later, rather than kill the moment."
Efrain, 34, interior decorator
12 After 10 years of marriage, I'd rather have...

sex get boring: 54%

"Every morning, when I wake up next to my wife, I look forward to spending the day with her, because we communicate so well. Though it doesn't sound sexy, marriage is a merging of minds more than a coupling of bodies."
Paul, 28, club owner

conversation get boring: 46%

"Any day, I'd rather have sex with a woman than talk to her, There are a half a million things to do in bed,' and not nearly as much to talk about."
Nick, 25, painter

 

Publication: Marie Claire

Author: MCCORMICK, SHANNON ; MULCAHY, LISA

WHO LOSES IT WHEN WHERE AND HOW

In INDIA,

young men of 17 or so lose their virginity to older female relatives: aunts, cousins, or elder brothers' wives. Similarly, in ROMANIA, young men s mothers often arrange for their sons' first sexual experience with an older female neighbor.

A lot of JAPANESE

men lose their virginity In "soaplands," where a prostitute first lathers them up with soap--and then lathers them up without it.

In ISLAMIC

cultures, a groom deflowers his bride in a private room during the wedding ceremony. He then presents to their guests the bloody sheet that proves his wife's virginity.
Of all the Asian countries, the considers, It most important to marry a virgin: 7B percent important (as opposed of women).

AND AS FOR SEX EDUCATION...

A growing number of older women In UGANDA are earning decent money teaching younger women how to be--and feel--good In bed. In a country where female genital mutilation is still practiced in some places to prevent women from experiencing pleasure during sex, young girls are being taught how to massage their own bodies so they'll know what to ask for during lovemaking.

In NEPAL,

sex education is left to the discretion of schools' biology teachers. Sexologist Dr. Rajendra Bhadra says many teachers just skip it--or wait for a women's holiday (when girls don't attend school) to teach it. "I know women doing post-graduate studies who still have no idea that they have something called a clitoris," says Dr. Bhadra. Meanwhile, in the NETHERLANDS, sex education in public schools begins as early as age 1. By about age 12, kids are learning how to put a. condom on a dildo.

Who are the biggest prudes?

(average age of first sexual intercourse)
1 China(21.9)
2 Taiwan (21.4)
3 India (20.8)

Who just can't wait?

1 U.S. (16.4)
2 Brazil (16.5)
3 France (16.8)

 

Marie Claire

Cook him a to-die-for dinner: "Naked Chef"

Jamie Oliver created this romantic, man-friendly menu for two. It's so easy, you'll have time to whip it up and work your magic.

PAN-BAKED PORK CHOPS

"This isn't fussy restaurant food--it's a down-home, delicious meal," says Oliver. "It's supersimple. You put it all--meat, veggies, potatoes--in one roasting pan, so there's only one thing to wash."
* To make marinade: Halve, juice, and squash 2 lemons, mix in 3 crushed garlic cloves and a handful of pounded fresh rosemary, and add 5 glugs of olive oil and freshly ground black pepper.
* Massage 4 large pork chops with the rosemary marinade.
* Refrigerate for 1 to 6 hours.
* Preheat the oven to 425 [degrees] F.
* Slice 2 parsnips and core and quarter 2 pears (Cosmo suggests substituting carrots for parsnips and mild sweet apples for pears, if you prefer).
* Cut 3/4 pounds of potatoes into 1/4-inch thick slices.
* Put pork chops, potatoes, pears (or apples), and parsnips (or carrots) into a large roasting pan with the rest of the marinade, tossing lightly to coat.
* Roast in the oven for 45 minutes to an hour, depending on the size of the chops.

WATERCRESS, PEAR, AND PARMESAN SALAD

"The secret here is to both slice and grate the pear," says Oliver. "By grating some of it, you're almost juicing it, so you create a sort of pear vinaigrette when it mixes with the drizzle of olive oil."
* Wash, peel, and core a firm sweet pear, and cut it into slices.
* Set a few slices aside, and place the rest in a bowl with 4 handfuls of watercress and 4 handfuls of arugula.
* Then grate or finely chop the remaining pear slices and add to the salad.
* Drizzle on some extra-virgin olive oil, add a squeeze of fresh lemon, and season with salt and freshly ground pepper.
* Toss the salad, then shave Parmesan cheese and crumble walnuts over it.

CHOCOLATE POTS

"This dessert is so rich, you need only a small serving. I put it in espresso cups, which are the perfect size, with a few simple cookies on the side," says Oliver.
* Heat 1/2; cup light cream in a small saucepan until it's nearly boiling.
* Remove it from the heat and wait one minute, then add 3-1/2 ounces of chopped quality chocolate (it can be semisweet or bittersweet but should be labeled as made of 70 percent cocoa solids).
* Stir until the chocolate is melted, then beat in 1 large egg yolk and 1-1/2 tablespoons brandy and stir until smooth.
* Let the mixture cool slightly, then stir in 1/2 tablespoon plus I teaspoon of butter.
* Pour the chocolate into individual serving pots and refrigerate.
Fab Finishing Touches

THE PERFECT WINE:

For a white that will match your meat, pick a light-bodied Pinot Grigio such as Ecco Domani. Prefer a red? Go with a Rioja, a dry Spanish wine that's slightly fruity. Try Marques de Caceres.

THE BREWS TO CHOOSE:

It you'd rather drink beer. go for slightly upscale brews such as Pilsner Urquell (if you favor light crisp beer) or Samuel Adams Boston Ale (our pick for those who crave a richer dark flavor).

MOOD-SETTING MUSIC:

For a sexy vibe: World Outside My Window, by Glenn Lewis. If you want more toe-tapping tunes: the 0 Brother, Where Art Thou? sound track, a popular mix of bluegrass, country, and gospel.

 

Thanks to Marrie Clarie

The ultimate guide to his orgasm:

The mechanics of a guy's big O are way more complicated than "put tab A in slot B and ... oh yes, yes ... bingo." We've tracked a man's ascent to ecstasy, from the first frisky thought to the grand finale--then passed along the secrets to giving him a bigger, better blastoff than he ever imagined possible.

 

* You never really hear anyone talking about the mysteries of the male orgasm. That's probably because making it happen is often considered to be about as complicated as operating an elevator: locate control panel, press any button, and--ding! ding!--he's headed for the penthouse.
But in fact, what looks like a point-and-shoot process actually involves everything from hormones to blood flow, heavy breathing to hyperventilation, muscle tension to testicular inflation. And when you know exactly what's going on in his bod from start to finish, driving him wild at every stage becomes unbelievably easy ... and a lot of fun. The following guide will clue you in to the sex moves that'll have the most amazing impact at each crucial stage of your guy's climb to climax.

HIS PLEASURE, PART 1

The mind-penis connection

Your man's orgasm odyssey begins in his brain. "It's often what's going on in his mind that kick-starts sexual arousal," says Richard Milsten, M.D., coauthor of The Sexual Male. "When a man thinks about sex, his brain sends neurological signals down his spinal cord to his genitals, which then respond by increasing blood flow to his penis." During this time, known as the excitement/desire phase, his heart rate rises and his twins tighten. All that can happen before you've even laid a hand on the waistband of his boxers.
Enhance-the-action tips: Stimulate his imagination. "Sexually, men are extremely visual," says Margot Anand, author of Sexual Ecstasy. "So one of the most effective methods to beef up his pleasure is to flaunt your body in ways that tease him." In other words, put on a show that would make Sex and the City's Samantha take notes: Stand in front of him, lick your lips, and unbutton your shirt enough to let him see the red lace bra underneath. Then tell him you're wearing panties to match. "And flash him some skin," says Vera Bodansky, Ph.D., coauthor with Steve Bodansky, Ph.D., of The Illustrated Guide to Extended Massive Orgasm. "Some guys like butts, some like legs, some like breasts--figure out his female weak spot and use it to seriously turn him on." If he's constantly gazing at your cleavage, make your nipples hard by rubbing them, and pull the fabric of your top taut so he can see the results. To put your rear on view, turn your back to him, then look over your shoulder while letting your hips sway suggestively. Or try both and watch his eyes temporarily eject from their sockets.

HIS PLEASURE, PART 2

The tantalizing buildup

Exactly how and when the second stage, also known as the plateau/arousal phase, kicks in depends on the guy. It might be launched just by the sneak peek of skin you've given him and his increased excitement in anticipation of getting it on. Or he may need some hands-on action: a little chest-stroking, thigh-rubbing, or light back-scratching to kick him up to another notch. In either case, this buildup period is marked by intense sexual arousal--and a desperate urge to be touched. His heart rate and breathing will get even faster. In addition, says Dr. Milsten, his chest and arms might redden in a sexy flush, his nipples may harden, and his balls may balloon in size. With direct stimulation, the engorged head of his penis will change colors, permutating into a passionate purple shade; it also will enlarge even more, a phenomenon Steve Bodansky calls a secondary erection.

Enhance-the-action tips: You have already massaged him mentally. This phase is when you get to mess around with him manually. But to maximize the delicious teasing of turning him on, don't zero in on his penis ... yet. By focusing on other areas of his body--kissing him, stroking his face, trailing your lips down his neck, and even lightly sucking his fingers--you'll intensify his arousal by adding anticipation, says Steve Bodansky.

Then when you're ready (or when he begs you), take some lubricant, smooth it onto his penis with your hand, and start stroking up and down in a swirling motion. "That twisting action will ignite extra nerve endings," says Patricia Taylor, Ph.D., author of Expanded Orgasm. After a few minutes, hone in on your man's hot spot--an ultrasensitive point on the underside of his penis, just below the head. "You should actually be able to feel it with your fingers," Taylor says. "It's actually hot, and it may even tingle a little or vibrate from the blood flow." Stroke it with your fingers or use your tongue. But don't touch him just there, says Anand. "Stimulate other parts of his body simultaneously--for instance, move a hand to his stomach, then slide it to his chest in one sweeping stroke, making circular movements around his nipples."

Because this is the play-with-each-other phase before ejaculation, it packs the most intense pleasure. So making it last as long as possible will send your guy into hooky nirvana. "The more foreplay, the longer and stronger his orgasm," says Anand. "Prolonging his excitement causes him to build up more sexual energy, so when he finally does climax, there is an even greater sense of release and pleasure." But to max out this stage and intensify his climax, you need to walk the fine line between revving him up and slowing him down so he can last as long as possible. By getting his mind off his orgasm, you'll actually be guaranteeing him greater pleasure. "When the tip of his penis suddenly gets bigger, a sign he's about to ejaculate, firmly squeeze the head for about four seconds," says Vera Bodansky. "Then start stimulating him in a different way." For example, switch from intercourse to oral sex, but lick his penis instead of sucking on it while avoiding the sensitive head.
Or stop touching his Johnson altogether and focus on his pleasure pals. "When a man is close to coming, his testicles contract even more and pull upward," says Anand. "So if you want to calm him so he comes harder later, hold his testicles and massage them downward: With one hand, put your thumb and index finger around the base of his testicles, and with the other hand, caress them with light circular motions."

Certain positions, like woman-on-top, are also often effective for prolonging intercourse and delaying ejaculation, says Douglas Abrams, coauthor of The Multi-Orgasmic Couple. You may have to experiment a bit to find his best cooldown pose. And, adds Taylor, get him to focus on what he's feeling in the moment--instead of what's to come--by talking to him. "Tell him `You feel really good' and 'You're getting bigger,'" suggests Taylor. The more you help him keep his mind on the present passion, the more intensely erotic he'll feel overall.

HIS PLEASURE, PART 3

The tension-melting explosion

Blastoff--the orgasm. Immediately before the big finale, known as the orgasmic phase, your man may increase the rate of his pushes, and his legs and feet may tense up and even twitch. Several glands in his sex system--including the prostate and the testes--emit fluid into the urethra, creating a feeling of fullness and an urge to ejaculate, and the opening to his bladder closes. A few seconds later, his semen is propelled out of the urethra by contractions that hit him every eight-tenths of a second. Even his butt gets in on the action: The sphincter muscles contract concurrently with the muscles in his penis.
Enhance-the-action tips: Pay close attention to the way his body is tensing up and pulsing, and use your hands, mouth, and body to pulse along with him, suggests Lou Paget, author of The Big O. "Moving in rhythm with your guy will heighten his sensations," she explains. Now is also the perfect moment to massage his perineum (the spot between the anus and testicles that's packed with nerve endings). Use the flat part of your finger to treat this area to firm but gentle rhythmic pushes.
Another way to supersize his ecstasy is to spread his sexual energy from his pelvis into other parts of his body. "Because men's erogenous zones are primarily concentrated in their genital area, most men, unlike women, limit sexual pleasure and orgasmic release to below the belt," Abrams says. "Stroking his back and spine and running your fingers through his hair will help focus his attention upward--making the orgasm a bigger, more whole-body experience."

HIS PLEASURE, PART 4

Total relaxation

During this resolution/satisfaction phase, his heart and breathing rates return to normal, and his penis shrinks from fully erect to about 50 percent bigger than its normal, just-hanging-there size (which it will return to over the next 10 to 20 minutes for younger men, longer for older men). The flush disappears from his chest and abdomen, the taut aspect of his twins disappears, and his penis--much like a woman's clitoris postorgasm--may become very sensitive to the touch. Depending on his age and his body's biology, his randy urges may not revive for a matter of hours. "The refractory period varies greatly among men," says Dr. Milsten.
Enhance-the-action tips: In order to give him good lovin' at this stage, you have to find out if your man falls into the wants-to-be-touched or doesn't-want-to-be-touched category. If he likes a little postorgasm petting, try sucking or massaging his penis very gently for a few minutes, but go supereasy on the top inch. "Concentrate on the base or midsection of his member instead of the sensitive head," Anand suggests. And if your man needs to slip off into sleepy oblivion? Let him ... and don't take it personally.
If you're up anyway and feel like enhancing your guy's experience even more, give him a little rub. "A great thing to do after an orgasm is to give a face, neck, and scalp massage," says Kenneth Ray Stubbs, Ph.D., author of Erotic Massage. "Many men hold tension in those areas. Once they've had a release in their lower body, it's particularly soothing to experience one at the other end." And since you've spoiled him so much already, why not?
climax conundrums

There are a lot of puzzling rumors flying about the inner workings of male machinery. We took up these weird, absurd, and even a bit icky issues will experts to distinguish fact from fiction ... and bragging.

1 Can a man really have multiple orgasms?

Some sex experts say that by doing exercises to strengthen their PC muscles, men can learn to experience the contractions of orgasm while homing back their ejaculation. But Larry Lipshultz, M.D., chief of male reproductive medicine and surgery at Baylor College of Medicine, says, "There's no scientific proof that male multiple orgasms can happen."

2 So then how many times can a man orgasm in one day?

It depends entirely on his body clock. "Each man's refractory period is different--it can take one person under 15 minutes and another a matter of hours to become erect again after climaxing,' explains Dr. Lipshultz. You'll have to conduct your own research.

3 What is semen made of?

The ejaculatory cocktail is 1 to 10 percent sperm, and the remainder is seminal plasma (a liquid that contains everything from water to simple sugars--which provide fuel for sperm--to alkalines, vitamin C, and zinc).

4 How much semen comes out in a guy's typical ejaculation?

It may seem like more, but only about a teaspoon of semen comes out of men between ages 18 and 36. Older guys eject less.

5 About how many calories are there in a tablespoon of semen?

 

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Publication: Cosmopolitan

Author: Holmes, Anna

20 Favorite Sex Tips Ever.

Culled straight from the experts, we have the wall-shaking, earth-quaking moves that'll make your bed end up across the room.

* Sure, your sex life rocks, but you still catch yourself wondering if there isn't a tip or two that could catapult your carnal life from all right to out-of-sight. Well, there is. Cosmo picked the brains of five of the top sex pros in the country to glean sneaky, seductive, and superhot moves that will take you and your guy into uncharted turn-on territory. Explains Susan Block, Ph. D., sex therapist and author of The 10 Commandments of Pleasure (St. Martin's Press, 1997), "Since sex is our full-time job, we're on top of all the latest trends and techniques." And how! After grilling our panel of experts for their greatest tricks, we couldn't believe the amount of arousing--and amazing--advice they had to offer. So read on and prepare to get it on like never before.

1 Randy Rub-a-Dub-Dub

Before you make love, take a bath together. Prepare the bathroom beautifully beforehand with fluffy towels and candles. Then put two drops of patchouli oil, three drops of sandalwood oil, and three drops of lavender oil into your bathwater. Patchouli and sandalwood are two scents that aromatherapists believe awaken sensuality, while the lavender is thought to induce relaxation. The combination of scents and warm-water sensations will completely prime your bodies--and minds for a truly sensual and erotic experience. --Nitya Lacroix, author of The Art of Tantric Sex (DK Publishing, 1997)

2 Pocketful of Pleasure

When he's least expecting it, tell your man you need some change. Then stick your hand in his pocket and start rubbing his penis through the fabric, pretending that you're really digging around for that coinage you need. When he's good and hard, whisper something Mae West-ish in his ear like, "Is that a roll of quarters in your pocket or are you just glad to see me?" He'll practically bust out of his pants.--Susan Block

3 Unhand Your Man

Give your man a massage without using your hands. Before you begin, slowly undress your partner, but make sure that he stays warm. (If the room isn't toasty enough, cover him with towels or sheets.) Then, keeping your hands at your side or behind your back, stroke his body (all except for his penis) with your face, hair, and breasts. Once he's totally relaxed, rub your breasts against his penis and he'll happily rise to the occasion. --Nitya Lacroix

4 Heavenly Heartbeat

To feel more connected in bed, tune into one another's heart rate. Lay your hand on his chest, and have him do the same. You might be surprised how easily you can become synchronized. Since heart rate speeds up during orgasm, if you stay hand-to-heart connected while you do it, you'll feel how wild you're driving each other. --Barbara Keesling, author of Discover Your Sensual Potential (HarperCollins, 1999)

5 Putting on the Ritz

You know how hotel sex is always extra-hot? Try re-creating that away-from-home atmosphere in your own bedroom. First, purge your room of any family photos or office equipment. Then buy sheets with the highest threads-per-inch count you can find (look for 200 and above), which feel supersilky to the touch without the cheesiness of satin. Invest in some thick, fluffy robes to lounge around in. And for the ultimate hotel-style indulgence, set up a tray of champagne and finger foods to savor after you make love. You'll both feel like you're on an incredible vacation from the rest of the world. --Ellen Kreidman, author of The 10 Second Kiss (Renaissance, 1998)

6 Pop His Cork

Try the oral-sex technique that I call The Screw. As you're moving up his shaft with your mouth, turn your head a bit from side to side, letting your tongue follow a corkscrew pattern. When you get to the frenulure--that part of the shaft just beneath the head be sure to lick it for a few seconds before moving all the way up to the top. Then repeat, moving down his shaft. What will drive him wild about this is that you aren't just going up and down--you're `also going sideways. It's 3-D! --Paul Joannides, author of The Guide to Getting It On (Goofy Foot Press, 1999)

7 Let Go--Loudly

When you're sexually excited, really express yourself. Let yourself go in whatever way feels most comfortable. Scream your head off, laugh, shout his name ... whatever you have the urge to do. If you're embarrassed, just know that you're doing your partner a favor. The more you express your pleasure, the more you make him feel like the stud of the universe. Bonus: Your orgasms will be. even more powerful if you really let 'er rip vocally. --Susan Block

8 Toy With Him

Stock up on some sex toys. Velvet-lined handcuffs can be exciting, and they don't hurt like the metal ones do. Silk blindfolds build a sense of suspense--which can be really titillating. And you can never go wrong with a vibrator. Ask him to buzz it against your clitoris or tell him simply to sit back and watch you handle it. It will feel amazing for you, and he'll be turned on just by seeing you so turned on. --Susan Block

9 Eyes Wide Open

Don't close your eyes during sex. This is a great way to explore more of the emotional side of intercourse. Start by kissing with your eyes open and looking at each other during foreplay. Gradually build up until you can sustain eye contact throughout both of your climaxes. You'll experience your orgasm in a wholely different way. It's a revelation. --Barbara Keesling

10 Hot Dog!

Before giving him oral sex, position yourself so you're sitting to the side, almost perpendicular to his penis. Cup your hand around his member, creating a `bun' around his `hot dog.' Then kiss the part of his penis that's exposed while breathing hard. Your hand will trap your exhalations and make his member feel superhot. With your other hand, work his testicles. He'll think he has died and gone to heaven. --Paul Joannides

11 Tantalizing Turn-Around

Face his legs instead of his face when you're on top. (Hold on to his feet for balance.) He'll get a great view of your backside--a surefire turn-on. And if his erection points out instead of up, this position will feel especially incredible to him. --Paul Joannides

12 The Kiss Connection

Share a passionate 10-second kiss every single day. A lot of couples keep having sex but stop really kissing. And that's a shame, because it's such a wonderful intimate act. So just go up and lay one on him. Instantly, you'll feel passionate instead of platonic. What a rush! --Ellen Kreidman

13 Bare Boogie

You don't have to have a model-perfect body to have maximum fun in the bedroom. Look at yourself naked in a full-length mirror for five minutes a day and focus on what you love about your body; If this feels awkward, turn on some music and dance naked with your mirror image. By getting used to your unique shape, you'll gain confidence, that will naturally spill over into your sex life and make you twice as enticing to your guy. --Barbara Keesling

14 Sultry Slo-Mo

To surprise him trod build anticipation, try doing the same things you always do in the bedroom, but slow down to one-fourth of your normal speed. You and your guy will have time to really bond, and since you'll be feeling sensation over a longer period of time, both your orgasms will likely be out of this world. --Barbara Keesling

15 Don't Wait to Exhale

You can actually use your breath to control your orgasm. With each exhalation, imagine that you're pushing the satisfying sensations throughout your body--instead of just letting them build up below the waist. When you finally let go, you'll feel the orgasm from head to toe." --Nitya Lacroix

16 Finger-Food Foreplay

Have a romantic dinner without utensils so you can feed each other. There's something sensual about placing food in your partner's mouth. It's so fun--especially when you serve stuff that's not supposed to be eaten with your hands, like salads or pasta. After a meal like this, serve yourself for dessert. --Ellen Kreidman

17 Strut Your Stuff

The next time you go out with your man, wear your sexiest outfit. Go ahead--flirt with strangers and turn some heads. Tease. It's easy to forget you're still attractive to other members of the opposite sex when you're in a committed relationship. But sometimes you have to remind your guy that you're a prize, not an appendage. It really turns most guys on to know they have someone other men want to be with. And it can be a tremendous ego boost for you too. When you feel sexy, you are sexy. Once you return home from your diva-date, you won't be able to keep your hands off each other.--Susan Block

18 Grab and Go

If you're turned on at, an inopportune time, act on your feelings. Although it feels a little bit naughty, a quickie will help you stay faithful. People often have affairs solely hr the illicit rush from doing something "bad." Quickies allow you to experience all of the having-an-affair thrill with none of the cheating. --Ellen Kreidman

19 Jeans Jiggy

Encourage your man to touch you when you have your favorite tight jeans on (and don't let him take them off). His hand can glide over your crotch more easily, and the material will transmit the sensations over a wider area. --Paul Joannides

20 Pillow Power

Great sex is all about angles--the angle of his erection and your pelvis determine exactly what hot spots he'll hit and how tightly he'll feel gripped. That's why pillows can be passion's best friend. Try one under his butt while you're on top or supporting your tailbone in the missionary position. Or use a few to prop yourself up when lying on a counter. And don't be afraid to experiment with odd-size cushions too. You'll be surprised how many new sensations you both experience just by adding a pillow.--Paul Joannides
Bedroom Boosters That Backfired Big-Time
Erotic adventurers share tales of lust lifters gone bad.

* "I received a pair of edible underwear at my bachelorette party, and I thought it would be funny if I were them for my fiance. He got a big kick out of them. So we started fooling around, and the panties--which were made of Fruit Roll-up type stuff--got hot and supersticky. Within a minute, the melting panties stuck to our pubes, painfully ripping out hair every time we moved. Ouch!" --Maya, 26

* "I wanted to try pumping that supersensitive spot at the base of my man's scrotum with my fingertips. Well, I guess I had !et my nails grow a little bit too long, because my hand slipped, and I jabbed him hard enough to draw blood! For a while after that, he conducted a `nail check' before he'd get naked with me. Even after passing inspection, he never had the nerve to let me try that trick again." --Kate, 25

* "My boyfriend had been urging ma to dress slutty for him. I'm more of a boxer shorts and T-shirt type, but I finally gave in. I wanted to make a grand entrance, so I got all tarted up in the bathroom while he waited in the bed. I took two steps in my fourinch heels, tripped over the area rug, and landed on the hardwood floor. I don't know what was bruised worse-- my ego or my ass." --Beth, 24

* "My boyfriend saw a position in a porn movie that he begged me to try. I'm game for just about anything when we get it on, so I was willing to give it a shot. It required him to do a back bend, with me laying on top of him. Well, we had barely gotten into this pose when he totally lost his balance, slipped, and tumbled to the floor--taking me with him. We knocked heads instead of knocking boots." -- Lyn, 26

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